“The moment you begin making demands of each other, your happiness already left you

– Tod Jacobs

Tod Jacobs and Peter Lynn tackle why we keep getting marriage wrong and how to get it right, both philosophically and in practice. It starts with a reset on the definition and expectations of marriage and a paradigm shift in our focus as a successful partner. In their book Not A Partnership and in this enlightening discussion, Tod and Peter combine ancient wisdom, modern perspective, and positive psychology into actionable recommendations.

“Great marriages don’t happen, they are built

– Peter Lynn


  • Everything real is created in two stages
  • Paradigms that work for a great marriage
  • Is biology at odds with commitment?
  • Shift mindset and focus to giving 
  • 4 Pillars “user guide” to marriage


Tod Jacobs is Director of the David Robinson Institute for Jewish Heritage in Jerusalem, which he co-founded in 2005. Prior to his current role teaching and counseling his students and alumni, he enjoyed a distinguished career on Wall Street as a leading authority on the telecommunications industry. His credits in journalism, where he worked prior to Wall Street, include nominations for both the Pulitzer Prize for investigative journalism and the Emmy Award. He holds an MS in Journalism from Columbia University and an MA from Northwestern University. Tod lives in Jerusalem with his family.

Peter Lynn has served as Dean of Students at the David Robinson Institute for Jewish Heritage since its inception. He has an MA in Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) from the University of Pennsylvania, a PsyD in Human and Organizational Psychology, and lectures at Touro College in Jerusalem. He is Founder and Director of the Greatness Within Seminars, where he helps empower individuals and organizations through the application of Positive Psychology. An accomplished athlete and Ironman finisher, Peter was captain of the US World Duathlon Team.




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